These days, we are too quick to pass judgement on others.
It is very saddening to see people fighting on some celebrity's Instapage - as if whatever you said made an impact on them. They receive thousands of notifications in a day on their page, very rare would they be able to sit and read your comments. So really, why bother?
People make fuss about someone who choose to open their hijab - while when they were wearing it (due to the fact she doesn't "behave" as how a tudung-wearing Muslimah should), you told her to take it off..
People make fuss about someone who can go to Hajj while she just registered for Hajj this year - you accused the managing institution of being biased, you accused of her of bribing them..
Why is there so much hate in this world until we are so quick to pass a negative judgement instead of just being positive and be happy for someone?
If you've walked in their shoes, if you know their trouble, even for your worse enemy, you wouldn't wish the same ill you went through.
We live in a world of social media, we are quick to judge what we see on social media - which mostly 9/10 times we post happy things. Nobody is going to post pictures of their puffy eyes after crying all night, nobody is gonna tell a story about silently crying during a meeting after receiving a heartbreaking news, nobody is going to be posting pictures of them pouring their heart out to God while in their prayers asking for God's help to ease their burden..
You see only good things and yet you want to condemn them not even knowing 1/10th of the real story.
I as a person am very "judgemental" - Because I like clarity so much, I try to make everything black and white. I really hate grey areas.. But, everyday I too have to step back and tell myself "Aisya, don't be too quick to pass judgement, you only know as much as the projected truth that was put on them. The real truth you won't know unless you walk in their shoes".
I cannot look at people performing Umrah/ Hajj and post pictures about it and say "They're just showing off".. You take a picture of what you eat in a day, why can't you take picture of God's house?
I cannot read about a wife ranting on and on about her cheating husband and say "No wonder he cheated, she airs her dirty laundry to the world.. Serves her right!".. Eh hello, you have not been in their shoes, you don't bear her pain, you don't know her thought process.. Maybe she just needed an outlet.
What goes on in a person's mind/ heart, their intentions, their niat, that's only between the person and God - hence why the term "Only God knows". Just because we are given a brain to think and we thought of why a person might do this and this, does not mean it's true.
Let's just stop passing and judgement & let's just spread happiness.
When you see someone taking off their tudung - of course you can't go "ALHAMDULILLAH", but the bare minimum is you should just pray for that person to find strength in at least maintaining her 5 daily prayers and abstinence from all the haram things.. Maybe one day they'll find the strength to put the tudung back one - because I know, this is not easy.
When you see someone posting pictures in Mekah/ Madinah or of places they just travelled to - just say "Alhamdulillah, their rezeki. InsyAllah one day my rezeki will come and I can go there to".
When you see people posting pictures while performing umrah & hajj - instead of saying "Alaa, showing off. Bukannya baik sangat dia tuh", remember whether they are nice or not out of the other 50/ 48 weeks of the year, God called them there.. And only God knows.
And if even doing this is too much for you, there is always the option of just exiting the page. Don't look at it - out of sight, out of mind.
Remember,
Remember,
xx, A.
